Julia Got Married Today 1-1-11

by Ray on January 1, 2011

No, not our little Julia, but a good friend of ours whose name is also Julia.

But our Jules – and Christine – were both in the ceremony.

Take a look:



And here’s the happy couple…

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Making Your Husband A Priority

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on March 17, 2010

Okay Dads, now I know there are many of you who visit often, but this post is for my fellow Mom friends, so will you excuse us for a minute, please?

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There are plenty of articles written about how to be a good mom, but as busy moms I think we tend to forget, at times, that we are wives first. I know I certainly do. My husband demands the least from me, so I often forget that it’s our marriage that needs to be nurtured the most. Our children need to see a healthy and loving relationship exemplified in the home. It is from us that they learn how to love and treat those of the opposite sex.

Trust me, I know that it’s easy to become overwhelmed with the caring for and training of our children, meal planning, housework, budgeting, and the million other jobs we attend to daily. At the end of the day I’m emotionally spent, worn out, and just plain exhausted.

But, it’s at the end of the day when my husband returns home from a long day of his own. He doesn’t complain when I ask him to stop at the store for a missing ingredient for that night’s dinner, or when he pitches in to help make it {or even when he has to make it on his own}. No complaints when he has to change another stinky diaper, or fill the dishwasher for the fourth day in a row.

However, you can be certain that I do hear about it when I neglect him. Of course, it’s not always expressed in words, but in looks and sighs. This is a good thing. I need a gentle reminder to make my husband a priority. In fact, I think wives everywhere need to be nudged a bit when they neglect their man.

Of course, it’s easier said than done, right? Well, maybe. But, how about doing something for your husband that he totally doesn’t expect? Show him you love him by doing the little things to prove it. Even when you may not want to at first.

Here are some ideas ::

  • Prepare his favorite foods for dinner or a Saturday mid-day meal.
  • Put your laptop and iPhone away for a few hours, one evening, and just snuggle.
  • Tell him how much you love him, the good old-fashioned way, and send him a love note.
  • Ask him how you may pray for him.
  • Flirt with your man across a crowded room. Even if that crowded room is movie night. In your family room. On a Sunday evening.
  • Remember to speak to him with respect. After all, he’s not one of your children.
  • Surprise him with a special date night out. Or in – after the kids are in bed.
  • Make time for sex. Yes, I said it. Mark it on the calendar, if you need to. Ladies, this one is important!
  • Or, how about something as sassy as having sexy boudoir pictures taken. You can ask my husband how much he loved this one!
  • Even just a quick kiss, out of nowhere, can do the trick.

Whatever you decide to do, the simple fact that you thought to do something out of the ordinary, will go a long way to let your husband know how much you love, appreciate and respect him.

Some of the ideas above came from a couple of good friends, but how about you? How do YOU let your man know he is a priority?

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The Five Languages of Love

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on February 8, 2010

When Ray and I were newlyweds, we studied a book called The Five Love Languages. In this book, Gary Chapman explains the different ways in which people react to others, based on actions and words, thus resulting in changes in our “love tanks.”

Chapman spent an entire chapter in his book explaining how the love languages can be applied to children. He also wrote a book called The Five Love Languages of Children. Now, I haven’t read his book geared towards children, and we didn’t have children when we went through the first one, but the same lessons Ray and I learned so long ago can be applied to our children, as well. Our children need to have love tanks that are full, as well.

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According to Chapman, there are five ways in which each of us express and receive love:

  1. Quality Time
  2. Words of Affirmation
  3. Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch

Each are pretty self-explanatory and I’m sure you could recognize which most speaks to you or your spouse just by glancing at the list, but what about your children? Which one would best describe each of their love languages?

Knowing how to identify each of the languages of love in Ray has helped me grasp how to identify them in my children. Ethan and Josh both begin to glow when Dad or I spend quality time with either of them. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time, but even just a quick conversation or little bit of undivided attention goes a long way in filling their love tanks. Zach, on the other hand, thrives on words of affirmation and encouragement. Gifts is my love language, so it’s easily recognizable in Julia as she is always making and giving gifts. And, physical touch is big for both my Ben and Noah – Both are generally always in need of a hug and Noah falls asleep with one hand on my face!

We naturally pour on all five languages when our children are young. We must spend time with them, serve them, and hug and cuddle, so as to sustain their life. We shower them with praises as they smile for the first time, burp after a feeding, and later as they begin to crawl and then walk.

As our children mature and develop personalities, however, their language of love can be a bit harder to identify. Here are a few ways to best determine which one each of our children most appreciates:

  • Observe their reaction to the different ways in which you express your love for them
  • Observe how they show their love to others
  • Listen to their requests
  • Give them options

I would love to hear which language you speak. What about your spouse and children?

It’s important to remember that if you express love in a way that is not understood, your child or spouse may not realize you’ve expressed your love at all. Chapman stresses the importance of understanding your loved ones’ language in order to keep their love tanks full.

Is your love tank full?

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There May Be Diapers, But We Don’t Forget the Dates

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on December 17, 2009

Ray and I are always pretty good about taking time out to spend an evening together, just the two of us. We may have gone “from dates to diapers” but we certainly haven’t forgotten about the dates! I truly believe that our date nights have been extremely influential in keeping our marriage so exciting. I look forward with much anticipation to these special nights.

dateWell, tonight was one such night. Ray and I first headed downtown for the Holiday #SacTweetUp, at Park Ultra Lounge, where I had THE BEST Jolly Rancher martini and we mixed and mingled with other social media mavens. Since both of us are BIG sushi fans, we then headed to Mikuni – our favorite sushi restaurant – and gorged on a plate of spicy seared ahi and some amazing sweet and sour rolls. (Kinda makes you drool for sushi, huh?)

The best part of the night, though, was when Ray stole a kiss during our short walk from one place to another, the playful banter about “parking” just to make out, and the uninterrupted conversation. Together. Without the kids.

How about you… Do you see the importance of date nights?
How do you reconnect with your spouse?

Date nights for us are super important. They provide an opportunity to reconnect in a way that we can’t with the distractions of home and family pulling at us. No diapers, no laundry, no pressing emails. Just us.

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