What’s Your Mothering Style?

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on January 20, 2012

My good friend recently posted on her Facebook wall that she had taken a quiz that gave a bit of insight in to her mothering style. Of the sixteen possible styles, her answers showed her to be Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging - A ‘Responsibility’ Mother. As I read the description – adapted from the book MotherStyles: Using Personality Type to Discover Your Parenting Strengthit was very clear that the strengths described fit that of my sweet friend.

I was curious and couldn’t help but wonder in which style my answers would categorize me. Am I the ‘Action Adventure’ Mother? Or, maybe the ‘How To’ Mother?

After answering a series of questions in four separate sections, I was given my results. I am the classic ‘Independence’ Mother. Honestly, I never would have described myself as such, but as I read the list of strengths and struggles I had to admit that most of them were pretty spot on. In fact, I laughed out loud at a few of them!

The ‘Independence’ Mother

Extraverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving


  • Energetic spontaneity. “Always” ready to drop what she’s doing for an outing or new experience,  she’s seldom bogged down with day-to-day “drudgery,” bringing a breath of fresh air and a new perspective to any situation.
  • Encouraging independence. She creates and supports opportunities for her children to be out on their own, mastering their independence.
  • Teaching. A wonderful teacher of “life,” she sees every activity and moment in the day as an opportunity for children to learn about life and expand their minds.
  • Tolerance and acceptance. She lets children do their own thing and refrains from pigeon-holing them. In action and words, she demonstrates respect for self and others.


  • Inactivity. With her need for action, variety, and independence, she finds it draining to be homebound. She may also find it difficult to adjust to children who are slower paced than she.
  • Clingy children. If she has a child who is physically clingy or emotionally needy, she may worry that he or she will never be independent or self-sufficient.
  • Household routines. Impatient with the details and schedules of day-to-day living, she may struggle to carry out daily routines. She may let mundane chores turn into mini-crises… and end up doing laundry at 2 A.M. when there’s no clean underwear.

What’s your mothering personality type?
Take the MotherStyles quiz at FamilyEducation.com
I’d love to hear about your results and whether or not you agree with the assessment!

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Sherri January 21, 2012 at 5:46 pm

Wow, I am almost afraid to take the quiz!


Shana D January 21, 2012 at 6:08 pm

My result was The ‘Giving’ Mother ISFP (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving) and I have to say it was pretty spot on, especially in my struggles. Saving this site to read all the tips.
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Natalie January 21, 2012 at 6:11 pm

I guess I am The “Giving” Mother according to the test, scarily not far from the truth! Thanks for posting, that was fun! New follower.


Krista January 22, 2012 at 2:53 am

I probably shouldn’t take this while tired and sick… ;) But I got the same as your friend. Which I think is fairly true. It looks to be modeled on the Meyers-Briggs personality test so I wonder if you can have very differing styles there? Because instead of an ISTJ there I am an INFJ.
I do feel like the strengths and weaknesses are pretty spot on for me in parenting though!
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Jessica @FoundtheMarbles January 22, 2012 at 7:43 pm

That’s a pretty great response I think. Personally I am going to stay away from that quiz because I’m not sure I want to know where I fit!
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Nichole January 24, 2012 at 9:35 pm

Very interesting! It said I’m a “Responsibility Mother.” And also that “the best gift an ISTJ mother can give herself is uninterrupted quiet time each day.” That part is 100% true!
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MomMom May 3, 2012 at 5:17 pm

ISTP, the ‘Give Them They’re Space’ mother.


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Pettina26 January 28, 2012 at 1:44 am

Thanks for sharing with us these great blog, Full of ideas and learning. I will wait for the grand come back of your site.
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