To have a friend, you must first be one

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on January 4, 2010

I’ve always had friends. Old friends. New friends. Acquaintances. Pals. Accomplices. Those who are ever-present cheerleaders – my biggest supporters. In fact, I am married to my best friend.

But, I’ve let friends down. I’ve lost touch with those who once meant so much to me. More than once have I let stupid things come between me and a dear friend.

I have also been hurt and have felt betrayed by friends. I’ve had friends cease to call me friend because I associate myself with one of their sworn enemies. I’ve also had friends stop talking to me because they heard something that changed their opinion of me. Something that may or may not have been true. They will never know for sure, because they never bothered to ask.

When I was little, and heartbroken over a lost friend, my Mom would ever so gently remind me that friends would come and go, but there is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother and that I should turn to Him when I’m feeling down.

Now, in an age where it is so easy to de-friend and block for any small reason, I’m even more aware of how important and necessary true friends are to me. And to my children.

girlfriendsA friend to whom I can cry and complain when I’m sad or have had a bad day. A friend who will rejoice with me and share my excitement when I succeed. A friend who can be the cheerleader I need. A friend who will sharpen me and be honest with me. A friend who recognizes that I may have different interests (and other friends). A friend who is loyal. A friend who loves my kids and realizes they are, in fact, kids. A friend who loves me for me.

But first, I must be that friend.

I try to be a friend without stipulations. I have friends who don’t share all of my interests. I have friends who raise their children much different than I do and friends without children at all. I have friends who have different priorities and goals. And, yes, I even have friends who associate themselves with people who have hurt me.

I’ve been searching God’s Word for guidance, as I process feelings and recent events in my life, and have found some incredible verses. Verses that are speaking volumes to me right now. Verses that are helping me get over disappointment in myself, as well as others, and realize that my Mom was right all along…

On the importance of friends::

Ecclesiastes 4:9-11
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

Proverbs 27:17
As iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

On what it means to be a friend::

Proverbs 12:26
A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.

Proverbs 17:9
He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.

Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times

On how to ruin a good friendship::

Proverbs 16:28
A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends.

And, of course, the greatest example of true and selfless love can only be found in Jesus::

John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

What do you look for in a friend?
How do you teach, and model for your children, how to be a good friend?

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What Nerds

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on October 7, 2009

As you may already know, I was able to hang with some fab bloggers last week. Well, Andrea (aka MommySnacks) and Pauline (aka OhMommy) were two of the women with whom I was privileged to spend two very busy, but very fun days. I can’t tell you how beautiful and graceful, both inside and out, these two women are… I am blessed to call them friends!

what nerds

Visit more Wordless Wednesday participants at 5 Minutes for Mom and Extraordinary Mothers.
Visit Wordful Wednesday participants at Angie’s Circus
Visit Mostly Wordless Wednesday participants at Ordinary and Awesome

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Give Cute Popz and Win Big! {Blog Popz Summer Solstice Edition}

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on June 22, 2009

It’s time again for Blog Popz and From Dates to Diapers is your source for the Cute! popz to give to all of your blogger friends whose blogs you find cute!

{What are Blog Popz?}

A blog award. A blogger recognition program. A virtual version of the lollipops you gave in school to friends and admirers. Each color represents a different theme. Get popz from authorized candy stores, receive them from admirers, and register your pop for a chance to win fantastic prizes for distributing and receiving the most popz.

Go to the store of the pop you want to give and follow the directions on that site.

Fave Pop
“Yours is one of my favorite blogs.”
Fav! Pop Store: Cool Baby Kid


Cute Pop
“Your blog is cute.”
Cute Pop Store: From Dates to Diapers


Love Pop
“I love your blog.”
Love Pop Store: The Not-So-Blog Blog


Friend Pop
“You’re a great blog friend.”
Friend Pop Store: Ohana Mama


Mentor Pop
Thanks for being a blog mentor.”
Mentor Pop Store:Suzy Q Homemaker


Star Pop
“You’re a blog star!”
Star Pop Store: Life Starring the Kids & Me


{Cute Pop Candy Store}

Complete any one of the following to “buy” your pop (grab the code.) Once you complete all five you can give unlimited pops without leaving more comments!

  • Subscribe to FromDatestoDiapers.com and leave me a comment telling me that you are.
  • Follow me (@YoungMommy) on Twitter and leave me a comment telling me you are a follower.
  • Blog about Blog Popz (include the available prizes) and leave a comment with the link to your post.
  • Tweet this message: I grabbed a CUTE POP @ FromDatestoDiapers.com. Give Popz & YOU can win prizes :: http://tinyurl.com/nvyp73 @YoungMommy RT PLS
  • Share this post by any means possible (ie, Stumble, Digg, Kirtsy, email, etc.) and leave me a comment telling me that you shared.

Cute Pop


A full list of prizes, a full list of available Popz, and answers to all of your questions about Blog Popz can be found HERE!

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MomsLikeMe-Where Sacramento Moms Meet

by Christine - From Dates to Diapers on June 7, 2009

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My good friend, Rebecca Unfried, recently invited me to a moms’ night out with the Roseville/Rocklin group at MomsLikeMe.com. Shortly after the invitation, I received an email from Elizabeth, the site manager, asking me to check out the site.

I hadn’t heard of this particular online social community, but was immediately intrigued by the fact that I could so readily connect with moms in my geographic area, so I decided to investigate. This Sacramento community is made up of over 5,200 moms, from all over Sacramento and the surrounding areas, and is sponsored locally by news10.net. I immediately created my profile and joined many groups, trying to get connected.

I have not been disappointed by the engagement on Sacramento MomsLikeMe. I have met moms who literally live withing walking distance, and I look forward to attending my first Moms’ Night Out very soon!

I tell you all of this, of course, because I would love to be your friend on Sacramento MomsLikeMe, if you live in the area. And, for those of you who do not live in or near Sacramento… You can find a group close to you, so you can connect with other moms in your local area, get advice, share stories, or just take a few minutes to relax!

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